Dealing with Infidelity in a Christian Marriage

In marriage, you exchange vows to commit to trusting another person with your whole life emotionally and spiritually. This is why the pain of infidelity can hurt so deeply; it cuts to the very core of a marital foundation. If you are dealing with infidelity in a Christian marriage and want help navigating the aftermath of unfaithfulness, Dr. Eugene Devers & Associates offer marital counseling services. With determination and support, it is possible to rebuild your relationship into something stronger and more satisfying.

Things to Consider While Beginning the Healing Process

1. Pursue what is helpful and do not dwell on what is unhelpful. When you and your spouse first discuss what happened it is natural to have many questions. It is important to get everything out in the open, but it is also important to know when to stop reliving the past. Ultimately the details regarding who, when, and how, will end up being more hurtful than helpful. Be honest with one another and then seek help so you can both move on from the situation healthily.
2. Experiences infidelity is like experiencing grief. There is real and valid mourning to be had after unfaithfulness affects a relationship. You grieve the loss of trust and the new difficulties you face as you seek to recover your future. Just like with grief, healing means letting your lives together take a new shape. Focusing on returning to a past version of yourselves will only lead to frustration. With counseling, you can renew your love for each other and build a stronger life together. 
3. Healing is messy, hard work – but it’s worth it. At the end of the day, if there is to be recovery there must also be work. Both spouses need to be willing to be vulnerable and listen to each other. Forgiveness is necessary in order to move forward into a marriage that is whole, healthy, and beautiful. Know that recovery is possible and that infidelity does not need to define your marriage. Love, trust, and intimate connection can be rekindled into something stronger and even more beautiful than before.

Begin Marriage Counseling in Northeast Philadelphia

Marriage counseling is one of the best decisions you can make if infidelity has impacted your marriage. Contact Philly Family Life Counseling through our online form or call 215/677-3810 to schedule an appointment with Christian marriage counselor.